Question from a bumble newbie!

[Chitterchatterchoo]

Hello everyone - I’ve just started dipping my toe into bumble for the first time ( first time for any OLD!). Im late 40s, just looking for a bit of fun really and not particularly worried if I do or don’t meet someone.

i had a question however - I’ve had a match and have started chatting and wondering is there some kind of usual approach to chatting over messages? In particular how long do you usually do it for before suggesting meeting?

I’m tempted to quite quickly see if he wants to meet up - but wondering if you usually message a couple of days before suggesting that?

I've not done OLD but I'd not want to waste time talking for too long before at least a chat on the phone.

I’d say mention meeting within first few days - and definitely meet up within a week or so. The longer you chat, the more it goes into penpal territory

This is my thinking. It seems a bit pointless to chat for long tbh!

i suggest meeting fairly quickly. Usually they back off and disappear.

I chat for a day or two and offer to go to WA or even a meet.

@Mysticguru - yes I’m finding OLD such a strange world! luckily I’m not that bothered about meeting someone - it seems very time consuming have to say! And lots of strange behaviour!

One of the biggest mistakes people do with online dating is that they keep chatting for ages. And then when they finally meet face to face it turns out to have been such a waste of time as that connection isn't translating to RL. Much rather chat a bit, talk over the phone and then meet. All this within a week.

OP, I met within 72 hours - no excuses. Some same day! I have neither the time nor the patience to message inanities. It worked very well. You'll meet some tirekickers and some who never want to meet - no thanks!

Now successfully coupled for 2.5 years so all good!

Oh I agree. Have no desire to spend lots of time messaging!