Smoking

[Lookingforlove2022]

Just some advice please...

I am with my partner for a year, would be nice for my children to meet my partners parents but the problem is they both smoke and if his brothers/sisters are at their parents they smoke and they all smoke together!

I do not smoke nor does my partner and I don't want my children to be around smoking, the partners won't meet outside of their home either.

Is it too much to ask them to reframe from smoking for an hour whilst the children are present?

Thanks.

Of course it's not to much to ask. Most decent people wouldn't need to be asked around young kids.

We have this issue in our family. Unfortunately, no its isn't fair to ask someone not to do what they normally would in their own home.

We arrange to meet for picnics at the natural trust, park, pubs, ours or coffee shops. We have told them our reasons why and they dully understand and respect our choice.

Be honest but don't dictate what others can do on their own homes. As far as they are concerned it's your problem, not theirs.

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You can ask if they'd go outside to smoke while the DC's are there. Most smokers would be fine with this, but if they take the hump, then it's their own stupidity that would prevent a meeting. Not sure why you feel a need to take your DC's round to the parents of a BF you've had for a year, seems unnecessary really.

I don't know, if it was me I wouldn't smoke around children and my partner seems to think he can't ask them not to smoke in their own home even for an hour.

Oh well looks like they will never meet up ( they also don't like leaving their home).

They're your partners folks and he's giving you a pretty clear message on where that would go. If he thought they'd take it well and comply he'd ask them himself. The fact he won't tells you all you need to know. So no, I wouldn't ask them. You could perhaps invite them to yours and get your partner to stress no smoking in doors in your home.