I have been with him for 4 years. He is amazing, I adore him, there’s literally nothing I don’t like about him and we’ve never had any kind of cross words about anything, it just works. I didn’t think relationships like this existed.
His situation - 37, works v long hours during the week and then comes to me nearly every weekend (LDR, he’s 4/5 hours away). No kids, says he’s not bothered about having them. I’m his first/only LTR. Just sold his house and looking for one to buy in my area, he’d still have to work away but he’d be based down here permanently in between contracts and at weekends.
My situation - I have 2 teenage DC (who he gets on great with), it’s just me, no support from their fathers. I’m 43. Health wise I’m shit, I have CFS which has been going on for years but in the last year it’s got a lot worse, I am no longer able to work, really struggling for money, and constantly exhausted, generally I’m stuck in bed (about 80% of the time). I don’t even have the energy to clean my house, I feel like my whole life is falling apart and that’s stressful, and stress makes my CFS worse so it’s a vicious circle. Feeling very bleak about everything at the moment.
My bf is the one good thing I have going on, he’s so kind and supportive. He doesn’t have much confidence, he’s very shy, hence why I’m his first proper girlfriend, and I don’t think he realises how amazing he is. He really is the full package, and I know he could do a lot better than me.
I was healthier when we first met and things have gone downhill from there. I know my bf loves me, but also because he is such a nice bloke I think he’d find it very hard to be the arsehole and leave me like this. But I feel like I should give him the option, he could find someone younger and healthier, maybe have a family…my future looks pretty shit and I honestly can’t see what’s in it for him.
Am I being mental? Should I give him the option of going, even though it would break my heart if he did?