Hi everyone,
I just want to rant, I'm a single mum to 4 children and my daughters dad which is my youngest is a nightmare 🤦🏼♀️🙄 she has just turned one, I've told him numerous times I don't want to be with him and that I don't love him and that I just want us to co parent our daughter but he just don't listen and won't accept it's over, he's hard work when he comes and gets her he says he's helping but he's not, in feb I moved into a bigger home due to having my daughter and he reckons he helps with my house, he only put my new kitchen handles on for me and moved a cupboard out from under the stairs, I've done the decorating and stuff on my own and tried to make it a home and settle in with the kids, he just criticises me all the time! Moans about everything I do the decisions I make and makes me feel shit on the daily basis always has to have an opinion or comment on everything for example my new handles on my kitchen doors, me paying someone to decorate my hallway because I can't do it myself as I have 4 kids on my own, me buying a new vacuum me getting the kids new clothes (my boys, who aren't his kids) what colours I'm decorating the rooms just everything he has to comment on and dig and make me feel shit about it. He literally sucks the life out of me, today I was in such a good mood as I've got the painter and decorator in to do my hall way finally and he's saying your an idiot I could of done that for you, why didn't you let me paint it he's mugging you off that's expensive! Now I just feel shit about my hallway being done because of him but this always happens when I'm excited about something or happy about something he has to make a massive deal out of it or comment/ dig which then makes me feel shit and I think mehh it's horrible! I don't know how I'm supposed to get rid of him because he literally won't let me be. I feel like I have to try and sort things with him even though I don't want to just to keep him happy and shut him up and it's just awful feeling like this I feel trapped!!! He's extremely manipulative and can be controlling and has lots of narcissistic traits my sons cannot stand him because all he used to do and does is moan at them and go on and on he criticises my parenting and makes me feel like a shit parent all the time too I should be doing this I should be doing that it's your fault your kids are naughty and did behave, there have been times he comes in the house and just looks around it's not on I say to him we ain't together you don't live here you have no right and I say you need to stop going on at the boys it's not your place but he just don't listen. I've literally had enough of him and I want rid but don't know how too, I've been told to go to the police etc but I just don't want all that agg I'm soo tired and exhausted all the time i just don't want the drama and the back lash from it all. He always compares him working to me being a full time mum says that I sit on my ass and can sit down it's disgusting the way he thinks I have an easy life because I don't work a mums job is never done always cooking, cleaning and washing to do and appointments etc school runs I don't get a lay in I'm up every morning at half 6 and in bed at 10 I have no social life either. He works 7-2.30pm every day and he has our daughter every Thursday night and every other Saturday night so he gets a break and peace and gets to do what he wants I don't!! He makes me feel bad also for being on UC but he knows I want to work I just can't at the moment before I found out I was pregnant I was going to university to do my nursing degree! He just makes me feel low all the time and when he's been here I just feel deflated after and I'm in a mood. 😩☹️😞 I just don't know what to do. He deliberately had my daughter the opposite weeks the boys went to their dads soo I didn't get a break and couldn't go out I'm literally so trapped it's unreal. He says to me it's my fault as I didn't want to be with him and chose to be a single mum I just feel like I'm being punished because I don't want to be with him. 😞