MILs Sure this has probably been done before. . . . . .

[magicfarawaytree]

If you could give your best friend advice on how to be the best mil she could be - what you tell her?

ignore this pressed twice

be open, friendly welcoming and non judgmental, esp when g children come along.

Don't say things like "In our family, we..."
Don't impose your expectations, culture, traditions or habits on your child's new family unit. Luckily doesn't apply to me but a friend married a bloke whose parents expected their 4 adult children (all 30+) and families to join them for a week every year in the same hotel on the south coast. Nice maybe once for an anniversary or something, but EVERY summer ??

bump !

Given all the mil threads, with a very common Interfering Controlling Old Bat type of back story to them I'm sure someone else will be along soon to join in.

I have 3 sons and 1 daughter so although it's a way off yet, MN has given me lots of thought provoking ideas on how NOT to behave in the future !

• barge into the delivery room as dil is recovering from the birth ? errr, no !
• tell ds/dil their choice of school for my gc is wrong ?
• get the hump when they don't all want to come home for Christmas ?
• sit at home like a lonely dog waiting for the phone to ring saying "But you are my life. Why don't you call more often?"

No no no !!!