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Shared Custody Arrangements

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babyb415 · 01/05/2024 12:34

My partner and I broke up 1 year ago.. We share a 3 year old girl, my X b/f takes her every second weekend. I was driving halfway to meet him on Fridays and Sundays for drop off and pick up. I feel my Sundays are gone having to drive 45+ minutes to collect her and then return home again (also spending 10e on tolls as he won't go through toll to meet me)
I asked could he do the round trip on one of the days; Friday or Sunday. He is refusing....
He's gone away for 3 months now to the USA training for work and I won't be keeping up this driving halfway when he returns. Am I being unreasonable?

I work full-time. He started work 4 months ago after being a carer for a family member. It took him 1 year and 5 months to get back working after the family member passed. I never asked him for a penny for maintenance or childcare while he was not working, I feel I have been very fair, too accommodating actually and now he is acting up. What can I do about it.

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Illbefinejustbloodyfine · 01/05/2024 12:42

He lives 1.5 hours drive away? Who moved?

mindutopia · 01/05/2024 14:19

Regardless of who moved, I think if he only has his child for 48 hours out of every 2 weeks, then he has more time and funds to carry the burden of the driving. Considering you are doing 95% of the cooking of meals, food shopping, washing and buying clothes, organising childcare, sick days, etc. I presume. He has more free time and it would also give him extra time with his dd. I know if I went away for work for 3 months and didn't see my dc in that time, I'd want ever spare moment I could get.

babyb415 · 01/05/2024 15:52

I moved back to my home town when we broke up..

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