Tell me something you really love or admire about your partner...

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Genuinely. Partners can get a lot of slack on mn, let's have a thread dedicated to some of the good bits?

I'll go first.

He's kind, and naturally assumes kindness in others. Not in an effortful way, it's innately who he is. I come from a very sarcastic family, and the sarcasm is sadly all too often meant belittlingly. But DH just lets it all slide off him. If I'm having an off day and haven't been kind, he accepts my apology with such grace and says things like 'I didn't take it personally, I know that's not who you are underneath', or words like that.

Being with him has helped me to become, and to continue to strive to be a calmer, kinder version of myself, and I admire and love him for it.

He's not cynical - he has a real joy and optimism about life and even though I don't always get on board with his weird interests, I love the way he just goes all in. He doesn't try to hide how much he enjoys nerdy stuff.

He's gentle, calm, great at chilling with me in front of the TV and lets me pick the channel, appreciative of any meal I put in front of him, smells good, greets me when I come home, doesn't snore, great kisser, knows when I'm feeling down and offers comfort. He's shy with people but very brave when facing down foxes. Only occasionally scratches soft furnishings.

He is absolutely rock steady and forever has an even view on life. His family (us! 😂) are his world, he looks after us at every point. He is endlessly kind, considerate and knows me so well. He works his arse off, but still without even thinking does his share of the housework/childwork etc.
he's fucking gorgeous, smells incredible and I can't get enough of him. He also makes me laugh!
And for some reason he thinks I'm perfect!

Same for me. When my DH married me he took on a difficult teen and a 7 year old both with ADHD, and not easy DC. He's brought them up as his own and now they are adults he still has a lovely relationship with them both. He goes out for a curry with the youngest DS as he lives close. He also agreed we would pay him £55k for a house deposit as he'd never get on property ladder without help even though he saved a good deal of deposit himself too. He helps both DS's with their DIY and shows them how to do things on their cars. He's always there for me and DC. He never lets us down and he brings me tea in bed everyday.

My husband is the best person I've ever known. In 28 years, he has never once let me down. He puts me and our children first, always, above everything else. He is kind, thoughtful, and quietly powerful. He's amazing.

He has good and bad points but his best point is he makes me real coffee every morning.

He comes home from work and gets stuck in with the children so I can have a break.

He's kind, has been a good provider for all our married life (I was a SAHM mum for many years), and he never has a bad word to say about anyone. Married almost 45 years.

He is very empathetic and emotionally intelligent. He is generally just a good person and a great husband and Dad. He recognises his faults and tries to improve himself. He has made me a better person. He is open minded and intelligent. He also isn't afraid to laugh at himself. I my times of need he couldn't have been more supportive.

Despite huge physical and mental health problems that would floor most people.. he is incredibly kind, loyal and loving.. I need to provide a lot of care now .. but he makes it so much easier by being a really good person.

Thanks for the thread OP .. so much negativity most of the time in here because obviously people post when life is tough which skews things and makes people think men are all crap..!most aren't !

He genuinely is a great Dad and always has been.

She completes me, my absolute favourite person on earth.

He has nice blue eyes.

He’s kind and compassionate, clever af. If I get stranded on a desert island he would be to rescue us. Accepts me and my strange family. Xx I love him to bits.

Great thread.

He's my champion - he supports my ideas, projects and ambitions.

He's calm and steady.

He's kind.

Much of what has already been said. He's amazing in everyway and has a really nice bum.

I really love his laugh. He is a man that laughs rarely. But it's musical when he does. I love it.

I admire his commitment to his children and me. He will do anything for us. He is never not willing to do anything for us.

I admire his resilience. His strength of self.

Grit. He's got it in spades. It doesn't matter how hard it is or the obstacles that he encounters he will always finish what he starts and accomplish what he set out to do. This has meant he has never once let me down on any promise. I can't abide weak willed or spineless people.

He's also extremely loyal, clever and funny.

He never ever criticises me, even when he probably should.

His kindness and empathy.

He makes me laugh
He brings me cups of tea
He is very good at data crunching
He will leave me alone to do what I want
He has beautiful grey, green eyes
He is an excellent problem solver

Even after almost 25 years he makes me laugh. Not just a little laugh but those really big I can't breathe crying laughs at least a couple of times a week.

He also is my calming anchor. I tend to panic in new situations he keeps me grounded.

Integrity
Massively long velvety eyelashes like bulrushes around the limpid pools of his azure eyes.
Unbelievably and hilariously good at impersonations, but will only do them in front of close associates.

He's incredibly talented at building/making/fixing things. Tiling, plastering, welding, painting, car repair, he can do it all, and to a professional standard. Can look at something that's broken (eg my stand mixer) and within minutes work out what's wrong with it and how it can be fixed.

He's also incredibly witty. His one-liners often have me in absolute hysterics.

Hate go bring a downer to this sweet thread but it’s really hitting home to me how much my relationship with DH is lacking. 😞

We’ve had a shit few years…but really, all I can think of off the top of my head is practical stuff that he does that I’m grateful for. It proves his kindness in many ways, but unfortunately the kindness gets outweighed by other stuff (grumpiness and a short fuse). And there’s none of this ‘he’s my best friend’ or ‘makes me laugh until I cry’ type loveliness, unfortunately.

anyway, maybe this is the eye opener I need. Glad there are some great men out there.