I separated from the father of my son (nearly four) last year. His dad used to be very hands-on, around a lot (worked part-time), family-first - that kind of thing. Since the split, he has been too so busy with business initiatives, women and recreational activities.
He is routinely scheduled to see ds every Monday and Friday afternoon, and whenever possible during the rest of the week/sometimes on weekends. Last week, he was three hours late joining ds on the Friday (who was with his paternal grandfather at the time), and then brought him back home over an hour late, at bedtime, not at all ready for bed and with telly having been promised on the way home .
He has also chosen these first few months post-separation to commit to a season's motor-racing (from now until November), which has written off eight weekends, including Fridays with ds. And ex-dp rang this morning to enthuse with ds about "the sound of his engine" - he's practising today, as he was "able to shift things around at work". I'm thinking if he's that flippin' flexible, why isn't he "shifting things around at work" to see ds a bit more? Shouldn't that be the priority at a time like this? As much as ds loves cars, he wasn't interested in an abstract chat about the bloody engine; he surely needs to see his dad and have a real relationship with him.
So am I being a tired, unreasonable grump, or has he got his priorities all wrong? And if it's the latter, is there anything I can do to make the situation more favourable, consistent and responsible for ds?
Ta.