Name changed for this post
Background: I used to work with this person, let's call her Sally, for about 10 years, until Sally left the job and moved away to another part of the UK about 4-5 hours away. When we worked together, we were relatively close and sometimes met up outside of work for a chat or with a larger group of colleagues for dinner etc. Since Sally moved away, we carried on talking both in the group as well as on an individual level. However, Sally never seemed interested in me, and conversation always revolved around her life / job hunt rather than a more mutual relationship.
Things came to a head about a year ago when Sally came to visit and I was going through quite a lot of personal issues. Even though I explained to her what was going on in my life, she never asked me about it or showed any empathy towards me. Instead, she took advantage of her visit to gather information about my skills and career which she planned to use for her own job hunt, including answers for interview questions. Since then, I have avoided contact with Sally and not arranged to see her or speak to her on an individual basis.
Sally has now asked to meet up with me in a few weeks time, and I really do not want to meet her. However I am out of excuses and not sure how to phrase a response to her without coming across as rude. Or, I meet her and explain why I have been avoiding her.
Please help!