Child Maintenance/ abusive ex

[TitaniumTess]

Hi, my ex was abusive....he's never stopped causing trouble....

We have an agreement via the CMS.... my ex has some custody of our son.

I am pretty chilled out and try to minimise angst for our son. My ex takes any opportunity to be a pain.

My view is that the maintenance service knows the custody pattern and are hence expecting him to contribute towards our son too. My ex's view is that his maintenance (which isn't very much) should cover everything, even on his contact days.....be it school trips etc. I buy the vast majority of our son's clothes.
..all uniform etc etc.

As a backdrop to how bad this guy is, he wouldn't buy a toothbrush for our son a month after leaving the family home...

A year and a half after leaving, he wanted me to provide spare underwear.....He is very petty. He is also financially very comfortable.

Any advice? Do I just ask the CMS?

As I said, I am chilled out to an extent, but I think that he should cover school meals etc on his days going forwards. My ex kicked up a fuss about a £5 school trip recently...it's not worth the electrons is it to type about it!?

Provide nothing on his days, the clothes the child is wearing and that's it. And if he is neglectful take him back to court.

@SuperGreens thanks. Court was awful the first time round. They ignored a lot of his abuse, so I don't have much faith in the system....

Sorry you've experienced this too. It's believed that going through courts they'll side with the mothers.... I actually beg to differ. My ExH got away with so much in court, even lying about the abuse he did to me. He actually stood up and said it wasn't true. The cheek of it!