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Afraid to criticise friends parenting

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Luro2 · 29/04/2024 18:54

Ive been really uncomfortable about how my best friend has been with my goddaughter, her eldest child, the last few times I’ve been round their house. She’s shouted at her and snapped at her loads, have heard her swear at her once and she has smacked her three times. Have never seen her smack her kids before and it only seems to be my goddaughter she’s smacking now. I told her I was shocked and asked what was going on and she got a bit defensive and said it’s just that my goddaughter has been acting up and driving everyone mad but I think my friends reactions were totally uncalled for. If anything my goddaughter is the best behaved of her kids but don’t think she should be shouting at or smacking any of them.
I took my goddaughter Friday and Friday night of the weekend before last and I came up with an excuse to take her for the whole weekend just past. She didn’t tell me anything was bothering her and said everything was fine but yesterday before she was collected she told me she wanted to stay another night with me.
Im worried that if I confront my friend too strongly she might get so annoyed with me she stops me seeing and helping my goddaughter. I don’t think she’s a bad mum or an abusive/aggressive person but something is going on and I can’t let it slide. What would people suggest I do for the best?

OP posts:
SoftPuppyBlanket · 29/04/2024 20:12

" I don’t think she’s a bad mum or an abusive/aggressive person but something is going on and I can’t let it slide."
I think singling out one child to 'smack' (let's call it 'hit' because that's what it is isn't it?) is abusive/aggressive. How awful for that poor child, I would definitely be trying to get to the bottom of it and if improvements weren't made very quickly I would be reporting her, friend or not.

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