Just need to vent, so angry / upset

[bakingmummy21]

Backstory, DH currently out of work. Was made redundant last year, found a job but let go after his probation so now job hunting again. We have some savings but not much and can’t live long term on just my income so it’s a lot of stress. Cut down on outgoings etc and can’t make any plans for a summer holiday, but it’s our 10th wedding anniversary this weekend, so we spoke about doing a last minute budget weekend away if the weather looked nice (with the kids, we don’t have anyone who would babysit).
DH has gone and crashed his car in a car park this morning, £900 excess to pay on the insurance. I know it was an accident and I know it’s just bad luck but honestly I’m so bloody frustrated. I now feel like we shouldn’t go away at all this weekend and just save the money.
And I just want him to get a job - he is looking but it feels like it’s slow going.
Just needed to vent really 😢

There is nothing 'more perilous' about taking a couple of days' break away. Christ, so dramatic.

Jobseekers?

@MsLuxLisbon - they're nearly out of savings, they can't live on one wage & they have a bill for £900. You do the maths.

900.00 is a smallish bill. When they say 'nearly out of savings', I doubt that they mean that they're down to their last 1000.

Don't know that you can say that, people's ideas of having savings and sizes of bills vary a lot. Like £900 is a massive bill to me. Perception depends on your level of income.

And this is his second period of being out of work in a year.

For years I often had £500 In savings at most, many people have nothing at all.

You can put your excess up to bring your premium down - it's a gamble - but £900 isn't that uncommon these days

@MsLuxLisbon - a smallish bill?! Out of touch much.

Thanks for all the responses, to try and answer a few questions:
DH works in a tech related sector where there have been mass redundancies last year, which makes finding a new role hard as loads of people are looking. His new role wasn’t the best fit and he was let go poorly by the company (no performance management during his probation and just told at the end that he hadn’t passed, it was appalling management). I have told him he needs to start thinking about just taking anything he can get but I also don’t want him to lose his career by being out of that space for too long.
The excess is so high to reduce the premium, I wasn’t aware of this as he sorted the insurance but I do know premiums have gone up so much. The car is on finance and we are trying to downgrade it to save some costs.
He drove forward out of a parking space and didn’t realise there were some low level bollards in front. The damage to the underside at the front is extensive and the car isn’t safe to drive - if it was cosmetic only we would just leave it.
£900 is a huge bill to have to absorb by anyone’s standards surely. Yes we can afford it from our savings or on credit but I’m gutted because it equates to a family holiday, or something else we might want to buy. It’s money that could have gone on a treat or something that we now just don’t have.
As the car is now in the garage from tomorrow we won’t be going away this weekend anyway as no our second car isn’t big enough to fit us all in.
Just now trying to come to terms with the whole thing and move on TBH.

If his sector is games or game design related, I can recommend a recruitment agency. PM me if you'd like details.

Sorry you're having a rubbish time.

Thanks but he’s in adtech. There are jobs it seems but also lots of people still looking.

He is just going to have to do what I did and apply for any and every job. As it turns out I still work in that sector 😊 Haven't moved up through the ranks (through choice) but it's relatively well paid and I love it. Totally different from what I trained for from age 18! At 18+ I would have thought what I do would be beneath me, to my shame.
I didn't have a choice, my family was struggling financially. He needs to get a job in the meantime. I do not believe for one second that he is job hunting all day, every day.