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When you’ve suffered abuse will you ever be able to forget it, will I always have negative feelings forever?

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Makeitstop9 · 29/04/2024 12:00

I wish I could turn off my feelings now. I’ve done a lot of research and understand why and how and what etc but I can’t stop living despite it. Im fed up of comparing my life or getting jealous of people who haven’t had to experience it. I know I can’t change it, I know I’d really rather have not had to have experienced it but I also know it’s over now. But my thoughts won’t leave it alone. I know it wasn’t my fault. I know I grew up to think my feelings weren’t important and I know they are now. But I wish they’d (my feelings) would just shut up now so I can enjoy my life.

I have this negative view of myself that I can’t seem to shift.

How can you stop yourself from thinking about it and having negative feelings about it. Will I think like this forever?

OP posts:
CM97 · 30/04/2024 15:10

Makeitstop9 · 29/04/2024 12:37

@MsMarch I don’t rate anything I’ve done. All I’ve done is try and navigate myself through the mess I’ve always been in.

I completely get this feeling. I am also struggling with it. Even though objectively I have done well (or so everyone tells me) I feel like I have lurched from one crisis to the other and made a bad job of dealing with them all. Sending you a virtual hug 🤗

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