My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years, on and off the majority of the time. We have a 2 year old son together. Last year we split for 8 months, this was the longest split we've had. He did make attempts to text me to try to get back together but I ignored him. There was zero contact from my part. I felt he wasn't even putting effort into looking for me to fix things. Valentine's Day of this year, he did get me a nice flower bouquet and I fell for it and started trying to fix things again. It's been two months trying but we are still not able to stop arguing. We have also split multiple times during these 2 months. I just feel a lot of resentment because in those years he promised we would get married and he hasn't proposed. There's always a money excuse as to why he hasn't bought the ring. He also cheated on me in the past, so I don't trust him at all. Our communication is horrible. I can't talk to him about what's bothering me in the relationship or what is not being met because right away he gets defensive with me and calls me insecure. I recommended
couple's therapy but he is refusing to go. He says that we can work things out without an outside person. He also says it's a lot of money being wasted. I offered to pay, but he still said no. I told him that I don't think the relationship will last because we can't communicate. He doesn't seem to care if it's ends or not. I just don't know what to do anymore. I have reached a dead end with him. I no longer feel like trying. I have exhausted everything.