Name change for this. I've been with my partner for 3 years. We used to live close by but then he ended it and I moved further away to be close to family. Turns out he regretted it and we got back together and have been long distance for about 9 months. (1 hour plane journey) my issue is I can't seem to have a conversation about what the long term plan is. He says I am being unreasonable and need to focus on the here and now which I am but essentially if we are to be together one eventually one of us would have to move and I personally would like to have an idea in mind of x years or who may move when the time comes. Is this me being overbearing or unreasonable? I dont believe it is as we have been together 3 years total I think its important we discuss this or we are wasting our time if it will never work out in the end or we can't agree on a plan. The other issue I have is that now we are long distance he has gotten rid of me from social media and posts nothing about us which I find strange. He used to put up the odd thing but now nothing and when I questioned him on this he said he has nothing to prove to me and won't be told what to do? Personally I just felt and still do feel hidden. The final thing is he doesn't invite me to things i.e. friends weddings, birthdays etc where as I have asked him to travel over for important family things in my life as we are still a couple but he has always declined. This is going to sound stupid but am I wasting my time here? What doesn't make sense is that he will organise a weekend for us to get together once a month so its like there is some interest there but again its all well below the radar. Well prepared for the influx of why can't you see it as deep down I feel this isn't right. Thanks in advance