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How to accept your ex isn't the same person you once knew?

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nomoremrs · 28/04/2024 14:02

I've seen a lot of threads on here lately ranging from cheating to general break ups to just growing apart.

I'm going through a break up myself and some days are better than others. What I do struggle with the most is knowing that my ex DH isn't the same person he was for all those years. I imagine he probably thinks I'm not either. But how do you come to accept that? It feels like mine went from one day being in love with me to literally the next day telling me he doesn't love me, and we will never ever be together again. He was quite callous towards the end. He does suffer from depression, but I don't think that is the sole contributor.

So how do we just accept that they aren't who we thought they were anymore? I think that's what I'm asking anyway. It's just very difficult to allign his behaviour with the man I fell in love with.

OP posts:
Lookingforunicorns · 28/04/2024 14:13

I really really wish I knew. It's 2 and a half years down the line for me and I still haven't managed it. My brain and heart hurt daily with the suddenness of the switch. Nothing has helped, time, friends, counselling.
In fact I think the only thing that would help is a new relationship, chances of which are next to none.

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