Does haircut matter?

[MintxChoc]

To men when it comes to attraction?

I have never had much luck when it comes to dating and have now reached my mid 30s childless and single because of it.

Everyone I know says they don't understand why I haven't found someone. I look after myself, am slim, dress well, style my hair, but unfortunately I don't feel I look my best ever, because of my hair cut. My hair is long, but I have always had a full fringe due to forehead scarring. I don't like my fringe as I don't think it suits me or my hair type and I know I could look much better with it grown out, but I am too self conscious of the scarring which covers all parts of my forehead and I don't have funds to look into treatments for it.

I am starting to wonder if my haircut is off putting as it doesn't suit me. I also had an ex many years ago who actively used to tell me he didn't like my fringe and so I guess this is on my mind.

Unless you’re rocking something fairly niche, like a Henry V look, I’d be very surprised if your haircut has anything to do with your romantic life; your lack of confidence, however, may be hindering you.

Within reason, no, I don’t think a haircut would make a shit of odds. I guess if you had something ‘extreme’ then it would possibly affect a first impression.

Can you find a photo online of something similar to your hair? It sounds extremely unlikely it’s your hair style putting men off you, it was cruel of your ex to give you a complex about it. Is it more likely your confidence is low and that’s coming across with new people?

Get your hair cut in a style that suits you, and start being confident about being a complete person as you are.

I opened the thread thinking you'd met someone wonderful but he had a shit hairstyle.

Is there scope for a different type of fringe?Try U shaped?

I imagine not liking your own haircut has impact on you confidence wise. I imagine that is the significance- much more so than men caring about hairstyles.

@AnneLovesGilbert Hair is long, quite thick and the fringe is full and covers my brows. I don't like it any shorter.

I have quite a small face and chin and feel half my face is just fringe and the thickness of my hair in general I feel just makes it look like I have too much hair.

Well, you can have it thinned out, surely? What about a lighter fringe?

It's probably you're coming across as lacking in confidence rather than your hair.

I don't think for a minute it's your hair OP. Long thick hair with a full fringe sounds lovely.You can always have some layers put in it feels too heavy but l think go with the sixties look, it always looks good. Wear your fringe with confidence!

Many of us do. It doesn't make a jot of difference to relationship status.

I agree that you come across as lacking confidence and blaming the fringe.
Is your fringe straight down? What about one going across instead so from one side to the opposite ear, instead of up and down? It might take time to grow slightly longer to train and tuck behind the ear.

Whilst doing so, I'd speak to your GP about your self confidence/CBT or think about hypno/talking therapies/acupuncture. Especially if the scarring is part of a trauma ❤

If you don't like your fringe get it restyled/thinned out. Do you put yourself out there when it comes to dating?
I don't think men really care about hair, I have a really big scar running down one side of my face and one eye is practically closed because of an issue with the muscle/sight. I'm happily married and have has lots of boyfriends throughout my life. You need to work on your confidence, have you ever heard the saying.. your looks are the most uninteresting part of who you are.