How often do you "date" your husband?

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Or in general have one on one time (I'm not talking intimacy here), if you have young kids?

We have three kids, two school age, youngest is 2. Since he's been born we've had 2 day dates. Never had a night off.

In 12 years together we've had three weekends away together - but multiple family holidays!!

I think it's normal for a busy family of 5 but I think it's starting to bother him.

Childcare options are limited. My parents have my youngest 2 days a week and do school pick ups for us so I can't and won't ask them to do any extra time when they do so much. No other family near by.

Just wondering how much others do?

We had some good periods where we had childcare available and others where we didn’t. And periods where the childcare was available but the dc were going through a separation anxiety phase. For the last 6 years we averaged an overnight once a year and a daytime twice. Currently managing an evening every other week and an overnight once a month but they’re young teens now. It’s lovely!

We’ve always talked on the phone twice every day (during DH’s commute) which has helped. And we’ve had family holidays and lots of camper weekends. It hasn’t been a huge issue although it’s very, very nice to get uninterrupted time together.

A friend of mine hired a university student to take her kids to the park for games on a Saturday afternoon to give herself and her husband some time.

We have a Date night / Day probably once every 3 Months. But our Childcare options are limited to one family member who has a long term illness, so our time alone solely depends on how they are. We went 15 months without having a date, at one point. Never spent a night away from our DCs in 9 Years

We have no childcare either for our 3 ( 5,9,11)

We have date days maybe once every 2 months if we're lucky , never able to get out for the evening and never overnight 😕

Be thankful your DH is bothered, mine literally doesn't care, more interested in things which require petrol amd has no interest in having a sex life either . He's old school like his dad I guess doesn't see it as a issue or importance for a healthy relationship and remain connected as a couple.

Perhaps look for a reliable childminder/babysitter who you can use ? You'd be surprised how many nursery employees do babysitting, my SIL did as he worked for a nursery and did regular babysitting for parents. Some childminders offer this service also.

Good luck OP