Boyfriend looking at women on fb

[tiredmummy98]

Hi, my boyfriend and I have a child together. We’ve been together for a few years.
when I fell pregnant with our DD, we were broken up for a long time.
I know he had relations with someone else during that time ( I don’t know what actually went on fully )

we got back together when our DD was born, our DD is now 2.

id say the last 6 months things have changed between my boyfriend and I. He’s not wanting sex, he’s not affectionate with me at all. We’ve stopped sharing a bed, It’s like he’s completely shut off from me. I asked him what’s going on he told me he’s depressed which I understood and tried to be supportive to him, as its been stressful for us lately.

i have found out yesterday through my IPad that he has been searching women on Facebook, but the woman he had relations with when I was pregnant he is looking at her profile daily, sometimes more than once a day.
i don’t know about his other social media apps as he’s very private about his phone.

I confronted him about it and asked what’s going on, he lied to me multiple times and that’s when I asked him to leave our home, as I feel like our relationship is over and been over for a long time. He told me I was over reacting.

im starting to feel bad for asking him to leave, I just feel like I’ve been a fool all this time if something has been going on…

am I over reacting? Thanks.

He's already checked out if the relationship, if he can't tell you it's over then you need to. Discuss finances and you go about splitting, you aren't even sharing the same bedroom anymore anyway and he's fixated on this other woman, whether or not somethings happening, the relationship already sounds dead.

Sorry you're going through this OP but I have to say your DPs actions sound like he isn't invested in your relationship anymore. There's no affection, no intimacy, no sex, no bed sharing. His phone and social media are on lockdown. He's looking up women, an ex-lover in particular.

Stand firm and ask him to leave. Do things, with people, that make you happy. How is he as a parent?

Hey OP, I’d be intrigued to know what the sex was like before it suddenly stopped. Was this a significant part of your relationship or just a case of ‘going through the motions’.

You haven't over reacted.
You have done the right thing.
It's a sad situation for you but well done for being strong and knowing you deserve better.

You're reacting to the 6 months of no sex, no affection, emotional distance - sure, it's been brought to a head by realising he's looking at other women's profiles - but it's not over-reacting. Just means your sympathy has been wasted on him.

Of course he's going to say that you're overreacting, as having to move out is awkward and he wants to shame you into backing down. But your relationship has been shit to non-existent for months.