Just looking for a bit of a half hold really, I’m massively struggling.
so DD (6) was admitted to hospital with an antibiotic resistant infection that she had been taking antibiotics for for 3 days but only getting worse. I am a lone parent with limited contact with my children’s dad. He will message every few Weeks to see the kids for a couple of hours, usually be late and find something to have an issue with in the mean time. I have cut contact down to very limit due to emotional abuse that I recieved for years and years. He has very little interest in the children but makes out to his friends and family that he is a doting dad. Just so you can get a bit of backstory.
i try to have as little contact as possible and he never enquires about the kids/ helps out/ refused to pay any money towards the kids until it was taken out of his pay check.
when dd was admitted to hospital she was quite unwell so I thought the best thing to do was to let him know I told him that she’s in hospital but okay, needs iv antibiotics and he can visit to see her’ since I’ve done this he’s came up and refused to leave apart from night time, he’s acting like super dad and making out to all of the staff that he is the most doting dad. Fawning over my daughter all of the time and telling her how much he loves her and will always be there for her etc and making unreasonable requests to me. I’m so sleepy deprived and been worrying senseless about dd but now she’s pretty much back to normal and is just being monitored after 3 full days of this it’s really getting to me emotionally. He is so cold and nasty the way that he speaks to me insinuating that I withhold information from him by not saying she was poorly in the first place only when it’s just us and is now demanding updated every couple of hours in the night (I’m exhausted probably had 8-10 hours sleep in the last 3 days) and saying he wants to take her away for the weekend. We share another child together and he has not asked to help out with getting him to school etc, my parents have done everything.
im not even joking when I say this, 2 days ago he took my last £10 in my bank account that I asked him to get some nappies with. I did not expect to stay and DD was so unwell and feverish she was struggling with weeing. I asked him to pick up a bag of nappies with my last £10 in my bank account and he went to the front desk, got 3 from the lady and then refused to give me the money back.
I want to scream but I’m trying to keep it all together and not make a scene