Fell out with whole friend group

[Xenia13]

I have had previous threads regarding this friend group and losing them.

A girl that was part of the friend group passed away a few years ago and each year we got together to celebrate her life. I have not heard from this friend group in months but her sister text me inviting me to the funeral mass.
A bit of background, myself and my best friend was part of this friend group. My friend has been through the mill over the years and I have been there 100% for her. I would have jumped through fire for her and she knew that. I had a family illness and I was up the walls and she just didn’t seem to care. In the middle of all this she got a new partner and she really did fall off the planet.
I was so worried and just needed her but she wasn’t there. I was pissed off so backed off her, hoping she’d come to me. She didn’t and now it’s been months. The other girls in the group I haven’t heard from either. My heart is broken but I wonder if they were ever friends at all.
I know if I go to the mass they will all be there together and will just be too awkward.
We usually do a big celebration on her anniversary but I obviously haven’t heard about it.
Would you go to the mass and face them all? Or just remember her in your own way.
I am honestly at a loss.

I would go. How long is it since you've been in touch with these people? How close were you? Did you all see one another often? I just think friendships fluctuate with time and circumstances, and that it's best to allow that and reconnect later on if both people want to. Sometimes life gets in the way of availability to friends, and I'm certainly someone who withdraws when things are difficult.

I would go - it is about remembering your friend and showing support for a family.
(Not about your friendship group issues)
Say hello to the family; sit in the back; leave just before the end if you want to avoid your frenemies. Etc.
Many ways to play this.

Yes go because sitting at home will feel worse.

You will need to be have courage but I think you will feel better if you go. Hold your head up, you’ve done nothing wrong. If they go and you don’t, it gives them something to be unpleasant about and I wouldn’t give them that opportunity.