I've posted on here a few times due to serious communication issues within my relationship and just when I think we've made progress we take two steps backwards.
Tonight getting in from work DD who is home earlier on a Weds had made some food and drinks for herself and left a load of mess in the kitchen and DH over heard me saying to her to step up and clear up after herself and said immediately to me I needed to stop being negative. So clearly not in the greatest of moods. I didn't comment despite feeling undermined and not like I was being unreasonable as knew it would escalate if I did so went into my little office room to do a little more work.
DH comes in to put something on the airer which is next to me and as he does he briskly pushes my empty coffee cup across my desk, I said please don't he said he hardly did anything and I stupidly said if you were working on here and I'd have done that you'd have said the same thing! He took exception to this I immediately said sorry.
He then proceeded to bang about and when I asked why was he banging he walks back in and does off on one at me.
Not the first time he has over reacted to the smallest of things but once in that space there is no coming back for hours.
He left for the gym and has since come home eaten dinner in silence and gone upstairs.
I'm just keeping low key out of the way but who knows how long he will be like this! I have in the past tried to talk but told him after last time how it effects me and is unreasonable and unless he is willing to talk about it and resolve it like adults I am not going to waste my breath.
Not sure why I came on here more to vent I think and help me stay strong. I'm sure it will work itself out and when he's ready to talk I will listen appreciate his perspective and apologise for my part but he has to accept responsibility for his over reaction and grow up.