Escorts number saved in DP's phone

[notalot12]

My DP has an escorts number saved in his phone under a mans name. I found the contact in his blocked list on what's app, her website was in the bio and picture and it's escort service. I didn't say anything at first as knew he would only deny it so looked again a week later and the number is now unblocked.

How do I approach him with this? I know he will deny that he's actually done anything when I know he has.

How do I approach him with this? I know he will deny that he's actually done anything when I know he has.

What do you want from talking to him?

What do you want the outcome to be?

How do you approach him? How about "we're done, finished, no discussion required". If you know he's done it why do you care whether he admits it or denies it? Just get him gone and move on.

@GreyCarpet I want the truth obviously! But I know he will come up with every excuse under the sun. I need proof otherwise it's going to make it difficult to get him out of the house, he will cry, gaslight, manipulate. I'm also currently pregnant with our 2nd child.

Are you going to leave him or stay with him?

The only proof you are going to get is her contact info on his phone. You could try contacting her yourself but it's unlikely she'll confirm anything.

You don't actually need to provide him with proof.

A simple I know about "X, the escort. Our relationship is over" is enough. Let him incriminate himself.

Why do you need proof? You know what you have seen!

What is your situation re finances and property?.

Its not a court of law so you do not need to provide him with proof; you've already seen this with your own eyes so do not further doubt yourself.

You are unlikely to get anything near the truth from him and she owes you nothing.

You have the proof, as you’ve seen it. He is going to deny it so do you really want to be with a liar and a cheat? What kind of example does that set to your children?

I understand that but you are not going to get the truth.

You don't need proof to end the marriage.

Having proof wouldn't make any difference to him leaving the house or not.

If he tries manipulation, tell him you're not interested and walk away.

If he isn't going ro make it easy for you then he isn't going to make it was for you. Proof won't make.any difference to that.

You have seen the number on his phone.
There can be no "good" reason why he has an escort's number on his phone.
So you either accept a relationship where your partner uses escorts or you end the relationship.
There doesn't really seem anything to debate.

You could try contacting her yourself but it's unlikely she'll confirm anything.

Not a fkg chance.

He could put that about her on UK punting and she'd hardly get any customers. She's in it to make money.

I need proof otherwise it's going to make it difficult to get him out of the house, he will cry, gaslight, manipulate.

You don't need his permission or agreement to end the relationship.

And you can end it for any reason you want.

House wise - depends on the mortgage/rental arrangements.

Even if you saw some messages arranging a 'punt", unless you somehow find out where it is and follow him and watch him go in ... He'll just do what all punters do; say he arranged it but didn't go through with it.

He's looked up prostitutes, saved their number on his phone, and he did two things that suggest this is not his first rodeo;

Saved it as a man's name.

Blocked it so he didn't receive inconvenient calls or messages from it, until he wanted to communicate.

He's very switched on for someone who's never done it before or only just started doing it, is t he?

He sounds like he has experience and/or he's on forums where they discuss how to manage punts and how to not get caught. The forums are usually people who are regulars.

I’d make sure I had the evidence by taking screen shots, then seriously ‘what can he say?!’

It would be game over for me from seeing that. I’d just assume he’d have used that number.

I would NEVER believe the ‘I was just curious, didn’t do it guv’ nonsense. Tbh he’s crossed a boundary just hiding a prostitutes number under a man’s name.

He’s a dirty creep and I would have the instant ick!

You have proof. Tell him and ask him to leave. You know the truth. He knows the truth. Whether he admits to it doesn’t change that

If you know he will do that, there's absolutely no point speaking to him and expecting the truth. You need to dump him to protect your sexual health, as well as your sanity. this is no way to live

You don’t need to prove anything to end things. Just say I know you use prostitution and I’m not willing to risk mine or our unborn child’s health. We are done.