Advice on being with a single mother

[JamesCHarold]

Hi,

I have been going out with a working single mum with 1 daughter since Feb. She is fantastic, we get on very well and seem to have similar values.

She is pretty time poor and the daughter is a toddler so I am being very flexible to allow us to try to build something around her time.

One thing I have noticed is that she has started to bring up the subject of finance quite a bit in the context of our potential future together and her child. It feels a bit early on to me to be discussing this, I have not met the daughter yet as it is too early. I can see her point as she wants to know that her aspirations and mine are practical, so I have agreed to discuss the matter.

What do other single mums here think about this subject? Whats the right time? Whats the right approach? Is it something I should be concerned about?

This sounds really vague, so I'm not sure exactly what you're getting at? Is she asking you to support her financially?

I'm in a new relationship and within a couple of months he was discussing about us moving in together eventually and therefore going halves on bills and things. Also coming from the angle that we'd have half the chores to do with one home between us. But I wouldn't expect him to provide for us or anything.

You need to be more specific

It's very early days.

Just enjoy dating. What's the rush?

Hi OP, definitely need more info on the nature of these financial discussions. If it's 'what your attitude to money?' that's one thing - perhaps she's trying to ascertain if you're in loads of debt or something? But if she's suggesting you should help her out that's a red flag, I'd say. Go cautiously but let us know...