How to deal with a self absorbed sibling

[Jessie0]

I am struggling to deal with a very self absorbed sister. This is the pattern. She messages and asks how I am. I tell her what we've been up to and how we are. She ignores everything I've said in my message and rants about herself and all the problems with her DC. It has intensified over the past year.

We rarely meet and when we do she is the same in person, she bombards me with so much personal info about her and her DC that it is overbearing. I find little joy seeing her and the main reason for contact is for my and her DC to see each other.

Lately the very long OTT messages are driving me insane. It was my DSs birthday recently. I sent a photo of him to my sister. She didn't respond or comment on the photo. A few days later I asked her if she had received the photo (knowing she did). Her reply was "Yes, I did!" and nothing else followed except another rant about her DC. This has really annoyed me considering I respond to all of her messages. I care about her DC but it's all become one sided. She seems very bitter at the moment and her life/DC life is always full of drama. I would feel bad ignoring her messages but I've had enough. Wwyd?

I'd step back completely for a while. If she contacts you, you're too busy to talk/visit.

My sister is like this. I’ve more or less given up on her. She’s completely self interested.

My sister acts like this. When I asked her a question or talked about something about me, she completely ignored them and just talked about things she’s interested in. I was pondering about this today and saw your posts. Also thinking how I should approach this as we lived in different countries and only saw each other in person once every few years. I do love her a lot and care about her, but it’s frustrating we can’t have a proper conversation. She just ignores what I am talking about / asking if she doesn’t find them interesting.