Long - sorry. My dad (80) is having some sort of breakdown, or (I think) has dementia. His behaviour has escalated dramatically, but I've managed to book an appointment with his GP for Wednesday.
Dad doesn't know I am attending. The GP and my mum do. I am ambushing my dad because he has become aggressive, shouts all the time, paranoid. He makes no sense at all, is obsessed with his health, convinced he is dying, and won't let you interrupt him when he speaks (which can be a 2-3hr monologue).
For context in the last week my dad has:
Saturday - had prostate cancer and went to A&E because he was 'dying'. They sent him home.
Tuesday - had a 'terrible fall'. He tripped slightly.
Wednesday - had concussion from the 'fall', and demanded a visit to A&E. Mum got him a GP appointment instead.
Wednesday afternoon - had a 'brain haemorrhage', smashed up a bowl when my mum said 'you don't need to call 999 we're off to the GP in an hour', and called an ambulance. Which came out, and said he was fine.
Friday - had 'blood clots'. Called 111, who sent him to A&E (give me strength), mum had to take him, 5 hours later they sent him packing.
He demands A&E every other day. Gets angry when you say no. Says you are killing him. Has Chronic Fatigue and health anxiety. Has other markers of dementia. Says the entire NHS and his family are all out to get him. Is making mum's life hell, is horrible to me and my brother, screams at all of us. This is not how he was, it's just been getting worse over the past few years.
I am scared about going into the GP on Weds. He will kick off. But I need to get a diagnosis. I don't have the health POA as dad wouldn't let us get it.
Can I ask if anyone has had similar experiences and how best to handle this?