Engaged, Split, Engaged, Married, Divorced, Married, Divorced Again?

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So I'm chronically single. I simply do not have the time with full time work, hobbies and friends ( READ - "probably can't bear to be hurt again so doesn't put myself out there), but my ex H on the other hand.......

Engaged 3 times and Married twice since we split (7 years) and now its on the rocks again according to my DD. How do I ever contemplate dating when I have to be the consistent in her life? Is there any point until DD leaves home?

I miss having love in my life, but 4 nights a month doesn't really give me much opportunity to even try dating/meeting someone new.

I guess I'll just have to keep to my schedule of late night binge watching woodwork videos and baking until 2am and hope to find love of some kind in my 50's..... or is there hope out there for me?!?!

I work a professional job, decent salary, pay my own bills (not well off by any means) but I don't need someone and I think sometimes my strict independence is my detriment.

Any tips or words of encouragement?

I was my ex husbands second wife.. he's onto his 9th now.
I'm happy single.. l love it...l have great friends and most of all the love of my family.. he doesn't even know he's got a 10 year old Grandson.. hasn't seen our daughter for 15 years.

Nine? Not being flippant, but please say that's a typo!

Wow… you had a lucky escape!! 👏
so glad everything worked out for you.
I very much feel the same and that person is missing out.

and now its on the rocks again according to my DD

you daughter thinks your second marriage is on the rocks?

She is talking about her ex not herself

How do I ever contemplate dating when I have to be the consistent in her life?

What your ex does has little to do with this, tho?

You could date and still be consistent in your dd's life - you just don't rush into displays of commitment, getting married or living with people.

It might even be good for her to see a healthy example of someone managing dating or a relationship without all the intensity, turbulence and speed of daddy. (That is, of course, if you feel ready/are in the right kind of headspace to achieve that balance).

Absolutely this. Especially when your DD is a teenager.

My DDs dad is on his 3rd marriage and it sounds as though it's very unhappy.

On the other hand, I've been single over 4 years. I have dated but nothing serious until recently.

I'm trying to model good relationships but without settling or rushing into anything. She hasn't met anyone I've dated but is aware I do and is keen for me to be happy. If things carry on as they are she may well meet this one!