Colleague always staring at me, makes me feel uncomfortable

[Daisy556]

I’m a young female and he is an older guy, if we walk past eachother he will stare me down, in one instance I was stood with another co worker and he was walking out of the door and the whole time as he walked out he didn’t take his eyes off me.

in another instance he decided to come and stand right next to me but not say a word, I just walked away.

why does he stare at me, he doesn’t even smile to make himself appear as friendly or say a single word to me.

Have you mentioned it to him?

That's what you need to do: tell him he's making you feel uncomfortable. Then if he carries on, tell him that if he doesn't stop, you'll be speaking to his superior. Then if he doesn't stop, speak to his superior. Then if he doesn't stop, speak to their superior.

Or just keep it to yourself and keep trying to work out his mindset. But he stares because he wants to, and nobody's said a word.

I would have folded my arms and gone "What?" "What is your problem?"

Is he a higher level than you or the same level? Either way you should definitely speak to your manager about him.

'...can I help you?'.

Or just stare back like 'what?' for a bit and then go 'OK, good chat' and walk away.

Say 'want a photo? It'll last longer!'

It's a form of harassment and intimdation.

Does he only do it to you? Has anyone else noticed his behaviour with you?

I might actually do this, I’m dreading going to work tomorrow just incase he’s there

other People have noticed he just stares as me but they find find it funny 😕

He is a higher level than me!

Report it. If others have noticed then just report it.

Has it stopped for you?? I am going through the same exact thing at work except there are two males that do it together like they’re a pact. One that works near me does it as much as he can and the other comes from a complete diff department to do it with him. I told Hr and my manager, my lead as well vouched and told them she’s seen it herself yesterday and they want to catch them in the act on camera today. (It used to be 3guys in that group but one stopped when my male friends there told them to stop) but the other two still do it mainly when they’re together and when they’re alone one still does but the other tries to look away. The one who looks away gets super bold in front of the main culprit and certainly does it with him. They don’t smile or anything they just stare for long periods and it creeps me out, it makes me angry in fact.

My immediate thought was he fancied you