Priorities of partner

[Crazymad15]

Not sure we're to start, but if you struggle health wise would you automatically expect help from your OH around house, clean, cook etc just doing whatever they should do instead expecting you to be a slave...... doing everything day out without help.... instead sitting down not lifting a finger, but when a mutal friend requires help with anything, they jump go running and help them out.

I think I would object in the strongest possible terms to a partner expecting me to do all the housework when I'm well, never mind unwell. I do believe that if you have a set up where one is working and the other isn't (even if the one not working is a stay at home parent), then the one who isn't working should do the housework, but assuming this isn't the case then your dp is a lazy arse. It sounds as though he wants a housewife, not a partner.

We both work FT, and each day is just the same. Have to (in his words moan) just to get help with moving stuff. Or at least get up off his A and make dinner for a change. Recently started immunotherapy treatment and he's still not lifting a finger to help me I've had to take time off work. He can't even have the decency to hoover!!! It's all left to me. But he jumps for our mutual single parent female friend which I don't understand...... she doesn't physically ask him for all the help he insists but he won't be a partner to me

Don't be a mug. He clearly fancies the single "friend" of both of yours. Why are you putting up with it ?

It he's not a partner to you then cut him loose.

It's not 1950. If he doesn't even do his share when you are healthy then that's really the dreggs of the bottom of the barrel.

It's OK to be single you know.
Don't date dusty losers.

Sounds like you aren't even married. So, happy days, in the bin with him!

I couldn't be arsed with a "partner" who doesn't do his share at home, full-stop. You both work full-time, housework (and childcare) should be shared equally.

Seems like it's easy for him to put on a show for other people, especially a woman, to feed his ego and possibly sniff round her for sex, but he can't be arsed with you.

What's the point of him? He probably makes more work for you rather than making your life easier.