Having some issues with my ex partner and need to send a text with a boundary - we have 1 dc together.
Our relationship ended years ago but he has never totally let go of the possibility of us getting back together. I have always been firm that it’s over and there’s zero chance of reconciliation.
Every few months he will be really persistent with trying to discuss ‘us’, and despite me repeatedly saying that I only want us to be in communication regarding DC, he keeps bringing it up. He is then intentionally difficult and doesn’t arrange times to see DC or drags his feet about it - he works shifts so can’t do set days, we have to arrange it each week, but currently he’s refusing and keeps saying ‘we will arrange the contact time together, when can we speak about things between us?’
It’s infuriating because I obviously cannot arrange a time for him to see DC as I don’t know his shifts, so he has to arrange the time based on his days off. He’s also very late with maintenance so I’m just fed up with having to be engaged in a conversation with him.
Can anyone suggest a message I can send, which reiterates I will only be discussing contact arrangements with DC, so I will not respond until he messages regarding that? Because at the moment each time I say that, he gives a non committal response like ‘we can talk about that together’ then I end up saying ‘yes so contact me when you want to discuss’ then he will reply ‘yeah first we need to talk about us’ or some similar nonsense.
Advice very welcome please, I’m really fed up of trying to facilitate a relationship between him and our child.