So we just agreed to call it a day

[CaptainKathrynJaneway]

(Name changed as spouse knows my NN)
So STBXH and I just agreed to separate and get divorced.

We had a trial separation about three years ago. Lived separately for six months then he asked to give it another try.

It’s sad but I think inevitable. No kids, enough money for us both to get a fresh start. Been together 14 years, married for 12.

We’ll stay in the house for a bit whilst we work out what to do next. I think it’ll be pretty amicable.

It’s a relief to know we won’t need to keep trying so hard. And we have been trying really hard, for a really long time. Too hard probably but we’re both really stubborn.

Oh well. Next chapter of life starts today I guess.

Same siituation. I have already moved out and couldn’t be happier.

Sometimes you just know what you have to do.

I’m nearing the end of my divorce. It’s all been done amicably with minimal input from solicitors.

We have agreed on a Financial Order, which is not 50/50 (I will be giving him a lump sum) but my solicitor says the judge will not agree with it because it’s not enough.

This is causing a lot of upset/arguments and we will probably have to use lawyers now, which just seems wrong.

Does anyone have any similar experiences? Will the judge accept the figures we present them with? Or will they require official valuations for property?

I think you need to start your own thread

Sorry, I thought I had. My first time on Mumsnet. Will try again.