I will be brutal my DP is quite overweight and does little exercise. He is aware of this and dabbles with considering weight loss and doing more exercise but does not do much about it. For context he is under 40.
I am not overweight (I used to be) and I am more active. He sleeps in whilst I get up and do things. I always buy/cook healthy meals but I know he eats takeaways and junk food when I am not around.
We talk a lot about his aches and pains, he’s not complaining exactly… but he’s always reporting them to me. I give him advice to see a doctor, do some physio exercises, stretch, do some gentle exercises, take some painkillers, have a hot bath, use some deep heat - NONE of which he ever does. He is a bit of a trooper and will just carry on doing something even if it hurts then suffers for it later.
He has a bad knee, bad hip and bad back. Even one night in a different bed or time on the wrong chair results in him being in agony all day long. I can’t remember the last time he didn’t complain about an ache or pain, I was honest and said he’s in his 30’s I don’t think this is completely normal and to go speak to a doctor or think about changing his lifestyle as does he want this to be his life?
This is really affecting our sex life now as I am always acutely aware that whatever we may be doing could cause him pain and discomfort and it’s starting to feel like I am with an OAP (sorry no offence to OAP’s).
If it turned out he has a health condition I would feel sympathetic if he was actively doing something to manage it, but he isn’t. I am starting to assume this is lifestyle related and I don’t understand why anyone would choose to live like this? I’m not asking him to get buff like Chris Hemsworth btw. AIBU?