OLD help

[Carsarelife]

Help. I've been chatting to Someone on OLD for more than 2 weeks. Daily, hundreds of messages. I don't know his surname.
The last message he sent was telling me he has massive feelings for me and cannot wait to meet. We were messaging via WhatsApp. He was at the pub watching football last weekend and he hasn't sent any more messages since. I'm absolutely gutted, the messages aren't being received, he hasn't sent me any and I've tried to call the number but it says "calls to this number cannot be connected"
I'm absolutely gutted and am thinking he's lost his phone or had it stolen. I can't stop thinking about him. I'd rather he blocked me than endure this

@BeenThere101 oh god of course. One FaceTime. I can't even remember what I'm saying half the time haha. Totally lovebombed

Well... don't be!

@BeenThere101 we were going to meet soon. He lives 2 hours away from me but said we can make it work. He was going to drive down last weekend but I said no.

Last couple of messages were him saying he's going to pub to watch football and he would call me when he gets back .

Said 2 messages before that "no one's ever made me feel like this"
And
"You're making me very happy, you're all I want"

Plus "I'm honestly all yours I'm not like that" etc

I sent my friend couple of pictures of him as we both like the same type of men and she said "I don't know why but he scares me"
He's literally like a model

Your friend maybe caught the cold/crazy eyes that you missed.

Also...and I don't mean to be harsh here op, just realistic, are you also 'like a model' ? I'm not saying everyone is shallow and men don't ever aim down looks wise but generally...hot people date hot people. At least, if internet photos are all there is to go on.

So it a (sorry to be crass) 10 is shooting for a 6 appearance wise...he's probably either not who he says he is in the picture or, someone who wants to be put on a pedestal for some reason. Either because he's a narcissist looking to feed his ego. Or, because it'll make it easier to trample your boundaries going forwards.

@Pinkbonbon I understand exactly what you are saying. I'd say I don't look like a model in terms of being perfect but do get a lot of male attention. I know how to make the best of what I have. People say I'm pretty and have the best legs etc etc
I always dress nice and have had no problems getting guys but they are never my type.

I am 10 years older than this guy but he tells me he loves older women and that's how he is. He's very heavily tattooed and whilst I do love this look I'm thinking he may be better suited to someone closer to his age who is equally as heavily tattooed. But he said no.

I’m going to be honest his words are absolutely ridiculous gif someone he’s never met and scream either catfish or love bomber.

Surely you can see that’s not a normal way to speak to someone you’ve never actually met and only been in contact with for two weeks?

Honestly the red flags are flying like mad - don’t ignore them

@SamW98 I can see now it's absolutely ridiculous. Also I thought even if he has lost his phone or whatever he could go back into the dating site and find me there. I'm still on it. He knows that. He said he was coming off it to "concentrate on us" and I said well up to you I'd never tell you to.

You ignored loads of red flags, so doing that inevitably leads to this. You are going to have to learn fast or this will keep happening.
Hundreds of texts per day🚩
"Youre all I want"🚩
"Noones ever made me feel like this"🚩
"I'm honestly all yours" 🚩
Talking for over 2 weeks on whattapp without arranging a firm meet.🚩
Someone wanting to date from a long distance at the start. 🚩
A man who is happy to date 10 years older is rare, he just wanted chat.
There's your bunting, now learn from it and dont fall for the same again.

@BeenThere101 he is 35 years old

@Opentooffers thanks. I've admitted defeat and hung up my bunting

@Carsarelife please can I ask what area he is supposed from , he sounds a little familiar

@Abovemypaygrade Redditch, near Birmingham