On my own after 31yrs!

[Sheracer]

Hi everyone, I'm 63yrs old, I had been with my partner for 31 years, he is 53,and we had a good relationship with 4 kids, until 9yrs ago when I had a stroke, I'm physically OK but I can't think very quick and I need help when I go out,as I don't always know how to get there, what to do when I get there!! My partner was my carer. But now he's found someone else and moved out, my daughter is helping me with alot of things but she also has her own family and home. My main issue is what am I to do now, I'm totally at a loss and I feel very hurt ,that now, when I need him the most, he up and left.How do I move on from here.

i don’t have any advice, just wanted to say I am so sorry that you are in this situation. Lean on your daughter as much as possibe and a new normal will follow xx

Do you have a house asset?

Can you sell and move to a more sheltered flat, still living independently but with more amenities close by? Perhaps freeing up equity for paid help?

No I'm in a housing association house, I'm also left with 2 cats and a dog! So moving isn't something I would like because I can't afford it and I don't think I could cope with the upheaval of it, I had a cognitive stroke and I'm left with alot of mental processes issues.

Ask for all the support you can get. If you can rehome any pets that you cannot care for. Simplify your life. Im so sorry for what you are going through.

OP really sorry you have been so let down by the one person who should have been there for you. That must be devastating. Have you made sure to claim all your disability entitlements? Also look into self directed care. You could employ your own carers/companions if eligible. If you have spare rooms why not get 1-2 Golden Girls to join you? Life doesn’t always work out how we expect but how you react to it up to you.

Thanks, I do get pip, and I have to find another carer, to take the pressure off my daughter as she lives 10mls away and has 3 children ( 1 is only 13 months old)and 2 at junior school, so she's got her hands full! Without taking me all over the place to get my benefits changed to my name, I had to go down the job centre and I got so confused all I could do was cry, and I also need to go again in 2 weeks, and I council office and the doctors for a sick note for a month im finding it so overwhelming.

Hello sorry to hear about your issue. You could contact your Local Authority and ask for a Care Act Assessment to see if you meet the criteria for support. If you do you may be entitled to support and could use Direct to pay your daughter or any other carer to assist you. You could also look at other voluntary organizations in your area for support. All the best

I would contact DIAL - it is a national disability helpline with local centres. Very helpful and will talk you through your entitlements/help you complete paperwork.
Very sorry about what has happened. Hope you find happiness in your life in the future.