Hi all
I know your first thoughts are of course you’d let your child have a relationship with their dad.
But my soon to be ex who I’ll be leaving this month is an absolute narcissist. His treated me awfully during pregnancies and cheated (not sexually) and all sorts whilst and right after our baby was born. His basically done so much I’m not going to go into it.
Our DS is 1.8 years old now my partner has NEVER helped look after him I’ve always done, bedtime, feeds, meals, nappies, bath time whatever needs doing basically it’ll be me. He will play with him here and there and express how much he loves him that’s about it on the rare occasion had him for an hour or 2. Otherwise ever since my little one has been born I have been with him every single day for 1.8 years and every hour except if I’ve gone for my lashes or something.
when DS throws tantrums my partner tends to say things like “Yo you’re annoying bro, shut up, such a dummy, are you dumb bro” etc I don’t say anything back to avoid conflict but I just wanna punch him in the face when he does.
A few months ago he took viagra and was trying it with me and I didn’t wanna be touched our toddler was asleep but then woke up upset etc and he kept saying “you’re the bane of my life, such a problem, omg you’re annoying” ew disgusting. When I addressed this with him he said it was all the testosterone from taking viagra and he didn’t mean it and etc but idk if I should let such a incompetent man have access to my little love.
he says he loves him, he says he is his world and whatever else nonsense but for someone who isn’t overstimulated, doesn’t look after him and does NO chores and doesn’t even provide for the family (I do) he has no right to be frustrated with DS. I want my little love to have a happy life and not to be called dumb for just being upset for being hungry and wanting milk.. What do would you do?