How do you move on from a relationship that doesn't serve you?

[heIpmemoveon]

I'm tired of going round in circles. But even when I'm adamant I'm over it we always just fall back into old habits. I need tips

Put a stop to whatever it is that pulls you back together and make a clean break, no more contact.

If you have children together, then obviously you need to been in touch and preferably amicably, but you then need to create distance so you don't end up cosying back up.

Do they live with you?
If so then the obvious first step would be to move out.

Then, change your number.
Or at the very least, delete and block them as a contact.

Step away from people or places or habbits that might cause you to bump into them and take them back. Eg: find a new local pub, tell anyone friends that 'champion' your exs praises that you no longer wish to discuss the ex with them, it's over and you hope they can respect that.

Change your locks if they've ever had keys.
Deactivate your social media for a while (if they have one you'd be tempted to snoop on).

There's not enough information here. But basically, if you know it's the right thing, you need to ensure you are separate. Don't live together, don't spend time together, don't communicate by phone or text.

When this happens to me, I don't have enough other enjoyable things going on.

I'd encourage you to take up a new interest or two and just be too booked up to get back with him.

Fake it if necessary how enjoyable everything is until it really is. Good luck xx

Partly following, partly here to advise.

*Book yourself in for beauty treatments/a massage.
*Avoid places where you might bump into one another - although don't avoid altogether for the long term as you have every right to keep living your life as normal.
*Make plans for holidays/your home.
*Concentrate on yourself, work, DC.
*Don't talk about him to anyone, ask others to not mention him.
*Pour yourself into a new project/studies.

I do love my ex, but for more reasons than one it just won't work out, sadly.

Give yourself a good shake then treat it like any bad habit.
Eg change your routine
Fill your time with other more interesting things
Sooner or later it will get to a worse point between you guys, flogging a dead horse only gets bloodier

By taking control of your life. Too many wait for 'the right time' when the relationship should fizzle out. It will never be easy, and you must make hard decisions sometimes.

Explain to your partner that you don't want to be in this anymore, and you will be spending time apart.

Go no contact.