My husband says that I'm always rushing him and that I plan things too much. On the opposite side of that, I think that he does everything far too slowly and he's unorganised which drives me crazy.
As an example, today we had to take our toddler to ballet, go to the bank, visit a friend to drop off a birthday present and go to see the solicitor, all before 2pm. Bear in mind, we'd also need to fit in lunch and a nap for our toddler in that time too. In the morning, I tried to make a plan so that we'd get through it without being late for anything with as little stress as possible. He replied, as always, it's fine we'll sort it, let's just see how the day goes, relax! 😒 trying to make out like me wanting to have a plan was simply psychotic.
I said fine, let's see how the day goes when I plan absolutely nothing and we follow your 'schedule'.
We were late for the bank, he forgot the toddler's ballet shoes (which he said he'd pack), she only had toast for lunch, and she fell asleep in the car because we'd left it too late to get her home into the cot. Because she only had a short ten minute dose rather than her 2 hour nap, she is now hysterical. Yet when I bring up the fact that this is all down to lack of planning, he's still behaving like I'm neurotic and controlling for wanting to plan the day.
It's every weekend and tbh I feel a bit gaslighted. Because I can be a bit sensitive, I don't know if I'm overreacting, but it is really starting to get me down.