Beauty/body revenge

[strawberrypie98]

Tell stories of how you changed your body clothes weight fitness and looked better and how it improved your self esteem.
Ow my oh almost left me for very glam and I would like to change my whole appearance this year so next time I see her I feel better about myself.
She's scum but I need to raise my self esteem so tell me your stories of where your oh dumped you or was going to and you changed your appearance and were like f... both of you.

I'd start by shedding the asshole that only by the skin of your teeth picked you over someone else and forget about the OW as she's irrelevant to you. When you don't give a shit what either of them think, then you 'win' and it won't even matter what you look like.

If you want to make changes for yourself, decide what you feel you'd like to improve, true contentment comes from within not what others think

Like PP says.

Self esteem has nothing to do with body or looks. Work on yourself OP so that nothing can affect you. When you truly don't give a fuck what anybody thinks you will gain a sense of freedom you've never experienced before.

Work on you, for you.
My mantra in this situation was my happiness does not depend on his unhappiness.

The most beautiful women in the world still get cheated on, it really has nothing to do looks or anything you 'lack'. The best thing to do for yourself is to focus on what will actually make you feel good again, not just getting revenge by looking good. Go to the gym and get in shape physically & mentally but for YOU, get your hair done for YOU, get some new clothing that makes you feel amazing but for YOU. What makes you happy? Start doing things that bring you joy for YOU. Screw them! You'll never be happy with them in your mind whilst doing any of this.

Also why is the OW scum and not your OH? Your OH is the one who owes you respect, loyalty and love, not the other women. She owes you nothing. I hope you didn't take him back as that will damage your self esteem to point where buying new clothing will be like dressing up a turd (because allowing someone to disrespect you will only ever make you feel like crap)

Not quite what you're looking for but when I was at school I often got bullied for being overweight and "manly". It was just that I was 6 foot tall and had a lot of puppy fat so I looked bigger than all the little slinky 5 foot girls in my class. It all fell off when I went to uni and suddenly I was being called a "model" and suddenly the boys who bullied me were sliding into my dms and really interested, as if they hadn't made my life hell. It wasn't something I did I on purpose, was just the way it was.