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Continued harassment?

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Mum031015 · 19/04/2024 20:28

I will try and keep this as short as possible,
my marriage broke down, we separated December 2022, now divorced.
had so many problems and then months & months of trouble from him after we separated.
I won’t go into it all but he got charged with harassment, along with some other things like community service etc got issued a restraining order which says he cannot contact me directly or indirectly save through a third party for the sole purpose of child arrangements and cannot come to my address unless for child collection/drop off.

i thought all was going ok until…. He made comments to our LO saying if he sees me again he will punch me in the face and beat me up… and now he has been at a “friends” house 2 doors down from me. almost daily the last month or so he just hangs around by the car park doesn’t go inside (the “friend comes out”) and he just seems to watch my house.
He told his probation officer that when he goes to his friends he can watch who comes in and out my house and see me.

im so creeped out… im waiting for my safety officer to get back to me but i dont know what to do, it’s like he is tormenting me just hanging around, i feel so watched and scared again i really thought it had all been dealt with after court

OP posts:
Arole · 22/04/2024 04:08

I am so sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, abusers see their partners as their possessions and seldom accept that the relationship is over. He will keep trying to intimidate and harass you until he gets a heavier consequence from law enforcement (putting him in the slammer longer). If he told his probation officer than he can watch who comes in and out of your house and see you, shouldn't that probation officer take the initiative to enforce the restraining order. I would be very careful. The day he sees someone that he thinks might be a new boyfriend, he might really lose it and attack you again.

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