Hi ladies, I’m 26, almost 27 and my mum decided a few weeks back that she was going to book for us to go to the spa today. It was just going to be swimming and afternoon tea (no treatments).
Unfortunately, my period started quite unexpectedly yesterday morning and is today quite heavy. I told her as soon as it started yesterday that I might not be able to swim today because I don’t wear and have never worn tampons, only pads (I started when I was 10 and have just never got round to it!). She was livid, kept accusing me of lying and said I was just trying to sabotage her trip. I showed her evidence (sorry, bit grim) which still didn’t change her mind and she was still so adamant that I could still use the pool and likely drip everywhere. I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable here, but I just didn’t feel comfortable with this. It wouldn’t have been fair on fellow users of the pool and I would have been embarrassed if people saw me dripping everywhere!
I still really, really wanted to go and suggested I just sit on the poolside and watch her swim and be there for company until she’s finished and then we both go off and have the afternoon tea, or I go for a walk for the three hours she’s in the pool and then meet her back at the hotel. I also suggested I refund the trip to apologise for the inconvenience of me not being able to swim.
Her response was that I either come with her to the spa and swim OR leave her house immediately. I told her I’d have to leave the house if she’s not willing to compromise on this, but can I quickly use the loo and find some socks. She wouldn’t let me use the loo or find socks and I ended up leaving the house bursting and with chilly feet. I also offered to walk the dog to which she wouldn’t let me despite him being legally mine.
After about 10 minutes of walking, I decided to head back to our road and see if she had even left to go to the spa which she hadn’t. I asked if I could come in to use the loo, still bursting. She let me. I told her a wasp went in my ear (true story) during my very brief walk and it was a bit scary to which she replied: ‘karma’. She was also quite toxic prior to this and said things like: ‘I was going to buy a property before you came along and ruined my life’. Etc. Etc.
She’s since been messaging friends bitching about me and likely not telling them an accurate account.
I do feel bad about not going in the pool, but I just didn’t feel comfortable. Am I in the wrong? I’d been looking forward to the afternoon tea and am upset that I missed out on it, but she was just being so toxic. If she had been nicer, then I would have been more inclined to just drip everywhere.
Let me know your honest thoughts! Thanks xx