It's a sex one

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I've been seeing someone for a little bit. We're probably going to have sex. It's been a while since I've had sex and I'm also slightly conscious of my body as I'm not slim.

What can I do to prepare for this? I'm a little bit nervous but mostly excited.

TIA x

I'd do things that make you feel good. Have a pamper night and wear your favourite undies.

Then remember that if he's not thanking his lucky stars then he's not worth your time! Just take your time you don't need to commit to anything and do what feels right to you.

Maybe try some nice flattering lingerie to make you feel more confident, Sextoyshub.co.uk has some really nice corsets and flattering lingerie

Don’t stress. If he likes you enough to sleep with you he’s not going to worry about a few lumps and bumps. Keep the lights low and maybe wear a nice camisole/vest if you want to be a bit covered up to start with. You can whip it off if the mood takes you 😆 I’ve got a classic mom bod, loads of stretch marks, cellulite - look much better with my clothes on than off but never had any complaints. Remember he’s probably just as nervous as you are. Most of all relax & enjoy!

Thanks all!! I won't have time to order any nice lingerie as we're meeting tomorrow so it probably won't come in time. I'm looking through my drawers to see if I have anything less granny-ish 😂

I'm trying not to overthink!
I have a cute cami with some lace detailing I could pair with some undies. I'm really not prepared

Love your body. None is perfect and I m sure he will also have his own insecurities.
I also haven’t had sex for a long time but he made me feel so comfortable and safe that everything just happened easily and naturally.

Thank you so much for this. I'm 26 and don't want to feel so paranoid anymore!

Don't do it unless it's really hard not to, in the moment. It sounds like you're trying to find ways to feel comfortable, which means you're not comfortable.

What would happen if you decide not to for a while?

I'm just a bit nervous as it's been a while and I have some body image issues. I have lost some weight though!

If I decided not to for a while? I'm not sure what would happen x

Well, if nothing drastic would happen, like you dying from sex deprivation, then why not wait until it's really hard not to, rather than trying to convince yourself you're ready? Nobody's on here asking for tips on how to eat chocolate or watch a film they like: we just do things we want to do. If it's something for your own pleasure, you don't do it until you want to.

That's my tip: wait until you can barely help it. Don't plan it, as in 'this is the night', because if you decide late on in the evening that you don't want to, you'll feel you're 'backing out'. Just do it when you want to. Unless you want a relationship where you want to feel pressured to have sex.

Thanks so much, I never thought about it like that!