I'm chatting to a man on line for past three weeks. We live very far apart and this suits me.
We seem to click and are enjoying chats about it the everyday things. He seems kind, consistent and is very keen to meet..
However, we have not nailed down a date. We have both said from the outset that we are extraordinarily busy but would like something lighthearted and casual( but exclusive)
He trains and plays sport every Saturday and has kids with whom he spends a lot of time with but they're older teens/ young adults . They are very close..
An opportunity to meet has become available this weekend.
He has suggested it but the time is awkward but doable for me.
He has suggested travelling to me which is a big journey . I'm happy to meet half way .
Now, he's not sure if it will suit as the timing is all wrong.
I get the impression he is enjoying the slow build up of getting to know me rather than rushing in and meeting without knowing anything about each other .
I too like this but it's now time to meet from my point f view .
What are my options here ?
Ultimatum ? If we don't meet , it's a goodbye ?
Wait one more week for a definite date ?
Or carry on and see where this goes ?
To add, I'm not that keen on meeting straight away , I prefer to get some knowledge about the person and do my research so to speak ! So far , what I've found out is good and from those who know him, he seems like a decent sort.
Thanks.
PS I'm relatively new to this scene after a long and lonely marriage .