Hi all,
After so long of being with someone self centred who is a man child, doesn’t care for me or contribute much and has me doing everything I decided I was going to leave the relationship.
My partner who I have a almost 2 year old with pays half the rent however I pay the other half, all the bills, I work from home 9:00 - 17:30 whilst taking care of our toddler. I also do the chores, if the chores don’t get done for weeks no one does them (it’s as if he is blind) sometimes the dishes pile up and it’s because I don’t have enough hours in the day. I do the grocery shopping etc he just about throws the bins out and even still sometimes I have to as they pile up.
Because of this, I no longer am attracted to my partner so do not sleep with him. It is a sexless relationship. However in almost 2 months we had sex once by chance because he initiated it. I’d decided I was going to leave but I’ve just found out I’m 6 weeks pregnant and it came off the back of that once.
I have no idea what to do or where to go with it, I still no longer want to be with him. Since finding out I’m pregnant not once has he given me a hug, not once has he asked if I am okay or how I’m feeling. I said 2 weeks ago to him I already think I’m a crap mum because of everything I do I don’t get to do enough with our son his response was “you’re doing alright”. We moved into a new place and 2 months in still sleeping on a mattress because he hasn’t built the bed, he also hasn’t arranged for the sofa to come from storage so sitting on the floor. I suffer from severe sciatica during pregnancy there are days I struggle to walk, get up and move and the pain of getting up off the mattress kills me especially since pregnancy the crouching and all sorts he never asks if I’m ok or anything he said I needed to clear the hallway for the sofa to come through I did this just over 2 weeks ago and nothing?
I’m so sick of him, he does not fulfill me not one but I am expected to do the household and raise the baby and provide yet all he does is pay half the rent and throw the bins out sometimes? Changed probably 1/2 nappies in the last 3 months.
My career is what keeps a roof over our head and keeps me and my son fed and clothed now I’m pregnant I’m so concerned about how it will be, I already feel so lonely 6 weeks into the pregnancy as he doesn’t show care towards me. Carrying his baby is no big deal to him it seems so casual like a whatever situation so care about what the woman goes through. My first pregnancy was horrid with him!! I didn’t want to get pregnant and had told him clearly and genuinely if I thought this one time out of my ovulation cycle I would get pregnant I would’ve taken the pill. However the thought of abortion scares me too as last year I got pregnant and he coerced me into aborting the baby I didn’t want to as it’s something I’m against so he began making accusations of it being someone else’s and that’s why I wanted to keep it that still up until today haunts me.
im someone who thought I was infertile as per the doctors advice for over 10 years this is not what I imagined my pregnancies to be like if I thought I ever would I really thought they would feel so special I obvs picked the wrong person and I completely understand it takes 2 and I should’ve been cautious but I really feel at a loss and no idea what to do, where to go with it and I just don’t know I feel like such a terrible person and I don’t even know why