Would you leave a friendship group if repeatedly left out?

[wednesdaywoes]

Even if the 'leaving out' is done in a WhatsApp group?

There are 7 of us. Been friends for 5 years or so. We don't get to meet in person very often but when we do it's been ok, maybe I've been a bit on the sidelines but overall it's been fine.

In the WhatsApp group I get constantly ignored and left out. If I post anything it goes mostly ignored, but if someone else posts a similar thing everyone replies. People get tagged in things. I never do. If I reply to peoples posts, it doesn't often get a 'like' but other replies do.

To make matters worse, someone from the group has added her friend to the group, and even the new person is included and acknowledged all the time.

I'm probably being paranoid but it's affecting my self esteem.

As in, do you leave the WhatsApp group?

Yep, and I suppose if I leave that then it's the end of the friendships too really? Not that there seems to be much friendship offered to me anyway lol

Friendships shouldn't negatively affect your mental health OP. These people don't sound like they're your friends.

Just mute the whatsapp group and archive it. You wont be removed but taking a step back might make them wonder where you are

As per @Grumppy .

Don't be active on the group, put it on mute, sit back and see what transpires. That is if you don't want to leave.

They really don't sound like good friends anyway.

I haven't posted in the group since my earlier post on here, and no one has noticed or contacted me separately to see if I'm ok.

I guess they were never friends in the first place

I'm sorry OP that sucks, but honestly you're better off without 'friends' like that.

You're being patanoid if no one answers or interacts with you. I'd leave and a friendship where they want to at least interact with me.

Yes do leave. You don't need people like this in your life! You deserve so much better, seriously! Just exit the group and don't even mention it to anyone. If someone asks why, just say nonchalantly 'well I wasn't really getting anything out of it...' and then change the subject.

I recently had a similar situation with a WhatsApp group - I felt that my contributions were ignored whereas the contributions of others weren't. Yet if someone needed something, suddenly I was of interest again. It made me feel really shit and paranoid. I sat with that feeling for a good few months before deciding to leave the group. It's been nearly a month now and I felt very sad initially but there's a sense of relief now that I don't have that cloud hanging over me. Friendship groups shouldn't make you feel like this OP x

Just leave them to it OP. I would leave with your self esteem intact and find some better friends.

Sorry OP but it doesn’t sound like they value your friendship but no one wants to be the one to sideline you or actively remove you from the group. If it was me I would leave the group and try not to give it (or them) another thought. Put your time and effort into trying to make new friendships. You could archive the group if you wanted to but then there’s a possibility that it would constantly be on your mind and that you keep checking it (which could then lead to even more sadness and resentment if no one is thinking of you).

I would leave. Where is the friendship group from? Was it work/ NCT?

Were you close friends before? Do you feel left out when you meet in person?

I have this same issue.
I'm friends with 3 ladies I used to work with. They all still work together I left to further my career.
Although we used to stay in touch regularly set up WhatsApp group etc it seemed as if, if I didn't ask how everyone was or made arrangements they didn't bother but still go out together.
I'm not holding anything against them and we haven't fallen out as such it's easier for them to stay in touch as they see each other every day but it does hurt.
As hard as it is try and get new friends

Yes. When something is making you feel low it is time to let go.