My husband has become really lazy since we've had kids, he spends all of his time on the sofa when he's not at work. I asked him to leave last year and he refused, we rent a 3 bed house. I think mainly because he doesn't have anywhere to go, neither of us have friends and he has no family. I don't really know where to go from here.
He looks after the kids alone while I'm working and hardly ever does anything with them. He also in generally cares quite poorly for them, he hardly ever cooks and often apparently gets them to make their own food or get cereals themselves (three children under 9yrs)
We stopped having sex as I can't bring myself to be intimate with someone who shows such little care and compassion. I've also suspected for a long time that he's been assaulting me in my sleep. He generally works nights during the week and I work nights at the weekend, so we dont often share a bed. It's hard to explain as I have no proof but I'm certain he's cut holes in my PJ bottoms and if we ever share a bed he attempts to be intimate with me whilst I'm asleep. I've called him out on it a few times and sometimes he'll deny it and say I've imagined it and other times he apologises. He is also quite financially irresponsible and takes money out of the joint account constantly even though he has money in his own account, often leaving me struggling to buy food for the kids.
How can I make him leave? I have no money so I really can't just take three kids under 9 somewhere.
How can I keep working? I'm pretty convinced if he leaves he won't be doing any childcare
I'm worried he could turn things petty, I've made some parenting decisions that I'm not proud of like smacking the kids, it doesn't happen often but it has happened.
I'm so tired of it all I really do just want the best for my kids and to have a peaceful life. I spend way too much of my time hoping something bad will happen to him to get us all out of this situation