Dating 5 weeks after moving out…

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My head is a little frazzled….

Started chatting to a man on Bumble mid January. Met first week in Feb and have been seeing each other ever since. The “but”…..he only moved out and separated from his wife in December.

To clarify- he’s not lying about this, I’ve met his family and friends who have all confirmed they are definitely separated. Solicitors are involved, have seen proof of this as well. So there is no question of him living a double life.

He seems like a lovely, lovely man. Intelligent, kind, emotionally mature, outgoing etc

But he was literally married in December (and legally still is).

What is everyone’s thoughts? Can this work? Is this too soon for him? Am I setting myself up for heartbreak?

I'd be very wary of someone who's straight on to the dating apps after the breakdown of a long-term relationship, let alone a marriage. These things take time to process. IMO leaping straight into dating means they have no interest in self-reflection and/or they're just after something casual.

Men just don't like to be alone. Instead of reflecting on themselves and why their marriage ended, they want to jump into a relationship as soon as possible.

I think the main concern is that you will be one of the triangles, and it seems like he's kind of rubbing your relationship in his ex-wife's face already.

You met on bumble; on there you make the first move. It’s stomping ground for men who want casual and hoping to attract easy women or a stop gap gf. This ties in with him only just leaving his wife.
All adds up to a lot of useless.
He’s very very unlikely to be serious or a catch of any sort. You can’t make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear as they say.

Tread very carefully OP. If you do decide to give it a go, take it really slowly and don't invest too much of yourself in the relationship until you're absolutely sure it's not a rebound thing. It's always a good idea to take things slow when there are kids involved but even more so in this situation!

100% - I avoid anyone ‘recently separated’ for those very reasons

I went on a date last year with a man who told me he’s been single quite a long while after his engagement broke off as he needed time out. When I asked how long he said 3/4 months - that’s a long while apparently 🤷‍♀️