Been seeing someone for a few months, would have liked it to progress into a boyfriend/girlfriend thing but it is obvious that's isn't what we are or going to be.
He has a stressful job, works ungodly hours and shift work and is also ambitious so he has basically told me that he can't give me the time I need and that he can't stop me from seeing other people. This was after I complained about not seeing him enough.
I've accepted this now and I'm talking to a few other men. At least he has been straight with me I suppose but it's still shit that he's allowing me to see other people.
Just wondering is anyone in a situationship and happy or are you secretly hoping for more?
I'm at the point where I know it won't be more so I'm not secretly hoping it will become something more serious. There is a strong connection with him in lots of ways and we are very similar so I don't want to cut him off completely either.
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Is anyone in a situationship/FWB and happy with it?
Situationship101 · 17/04/2024 20:36
PermanentTemporary · 17/04/2024 21:16
From very direct experience, this sounds like a recipe for you unconsciously sabotaging anything with potential to 'protect' this other situation.
He will feel he has warned you and therefore is free to fall for someone else. That's going to hurt like fuck when it happens.
I'm sorry, I think you need to end it, if you would like to be in an actual relationship.
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.