I was having lunch with my mil. She said to me can you believe that xxx (some woman that we see in the park) is actually older than you?! I found this comment extremely upsetting as I have just given birth to a baby girl two months ago and I am conscious of how tired I look. I have however always been told to look younger than my age (but looking after a baby could easily change that). This woman in fact doesn’t look young at all. She looks just her age.
In fact it upsets me so much because she made a very similar comment a year ago which got me very upset and I believe my mil noticed. Yet she still did it again? I just don’t know if she’s simply blunt or wants to attack me. Any thoughts?
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Mother in law’s comment makes me upset
Anusername · 17/04/2024 16:47
Xenoi24 · 17/04/2024 22:50
My thoughts are that she's a real bitch.
No-one decent says something like that once, let alone twice.
She really deserves you to say "I know, it's funny how different people look at similar ages .... for example my friend's Mum/mil is your age but looks years younger. I'd never have guessed she was the same age as you".
Two can play that game.
Anusername · 18/04/2024 07:06
@IntoTheMild thank you for being so kind. I think having kids really ages you quickly. I now have constant eye bags and dark eye circles and have no time to take care of myself. Being 5kg more than my pre-pregnancy weight is not helpful either.
Xenoi24 · 17/04/2024 22:50
My thoughts are that she's a real bitch.
No-one decent says something like that once, let alone twice.
She really deserves you to say "I know, it's funny how different people look at similar ages .... for example my friend's Mum/mil is your age but looks years younger. I'd never have guessed she was the same age as you".
Two can play that game.
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CurlewKate · 18/04/2024 07:52
Generally speaking this sort of thing is cock up not conspiracy. We all say things sometimes that have us kicking the sheets at 4 in the morning. Let it pass. And if it was deliberate not being affected by it is the best retaliation. Be the better person.
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