Just looking for some advice on this, separated from ex beginning of last year. 2 children together. Recently towards the end of last year we started seeing each other again with the intention of getting back together, things were going well and I brought up him moving back in and he then informed me that he never wants to live together again.
I can't see how this would work personally. So at the moment he comes down to "visit" us and stays for a week or so but then will disappear for a few days / week back to his when he wants a break. He will make excuses and say he needs to sort things out in his area/ at his place. I feel like I'm being taken advantage of but he tells me it's a good set up and all of his friend's partners are jealous apparently? And they would love to not live with their partners. Yet I'm struggling to see what I get out of this situation. He comes down and plays happy families then goes off and we don't see him for days, he said coming here is like a holiday! He never takes the children to his as he says there's no point so I never get a "break" but then I see threads on here where people say they would love to not live with their partner and live separately so is he right? Surely this doesn't apply when you have children together? Of course I can see the benefits of living separately if there are no shared children involved or if things were more equal but he seems to be the only one benefiting from this situation. He is not saying we will see how things go or in the future he has literally said he never wants to move back in.