I've recently started dating again after a long marriage.
I've met a lovely guy who I've had a few dates with. He text most days, seem to get on.
But he is very busy, he works away and has kids a lot when he is home.
He recently text to allologise for not being able to see me for the next week as he has a lot on. He suggested a date next late next week, which I can't make.
But how much chasing should I do in this situation?
I feel as if, as he is the one who is usually busy, I should let him take a lead. But waiting around for him to ask drives me crazy.
Is it OK to say - tell me when you are free, and I'll work around you, or does that look overly keen?
And, is this normal in the early days of a relationship, or is is this a sign that he is not v keen, and I should let it go?
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Darllenadeall · 17/04/2024 09:44
Opentooffers · 17/04/2024 14:32
Look in a general sense at possible incompatibility issues. If he works away and has DC's in between, is there any room and any point? You can expect scraps off him all the time, he's already testing what you'll put up with.
Peal4 · 17/04/2024 16:24
He's messaged you to apologise for not being able to see you next week and has suggested a date for the following week. I think that shows effort and forward planning! 100% message him back with a couple of alternative dates.
My situation is similar and I also get an anxious feeling in my gut with it all. Difficult to know what to do, or if it's worth carrying on with. I hate all the who's turn is it to message or who's turn is it to suggest meeting up. The best thing is to chat about it if it's bothering you.
Watchkeys · 17/04/2024 18:43
but I also hate having to wait around and see if he bothers to ask me out - its a shit feeling
Then find something else to do. This isn't about men, or waiting to hear from people; this is about the fact that if he doesn't reply, there's a gap, and you're waiting for someone to fill it for you.
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